Making Sexual Intercourse Better

Making Sex Better

When you are able to achieve reliable erection during Sensory Focus you and your partner have a choice. You may proceed to intercourse at the end of this period of manual stimulation by your partner, or you may go on with extended sexual orgasm training.

Erection problems often occur because a man believes he should automatically experience an erection whenever he’s in a sexual situation. Women often believe that too.

It’s a myth. Most men need their penises directly stimulated for erection. The need increases with age. A partner is the best source of that stimulation, so you should continue self-stimulation training through the stages when your partner watches you to learn how and then takes over the process.

You are responsible for arranging enough stimulation. You have to make sure you give yourself enough or your partner gives you enough. Then, even if you don’t begin a sexual encounter with an erection, you can produce an erection with self-stimulation. If you’ve done that in front of your partner in training, then you won’t be embarrassed to do it again when it’s needed.

Extended sexual orgasm

And yes, it’s okay, many men stimulate themselves in order to achieve a working level of arousal. It’s more fun if your partner does it for you, but not all women are willing to agree. It’s your penis, your pleasure, and ultimately your responsibility. This is all about connection with yourself and your lover, extremely important properties of the lover archetype.

Soft-Penis Intercourse

This can be a useful exercise for erection problems. Both partners experience pleasure from penile stimulation that isn’t dependent on erection. It’s also a pleasurable variation for any couple to use near the beginning of a sexual encounter, because it establishes sexual intimacy without rushing sexual performance.

The woman lies on her back with her right leg tented over the man’s hips. The man lies at a forty-five-degree angle to her body on his left side, facing her. lie holds his penis in his right hand and rubs the glans up, down, and around the woman’s clitoris. Both areas, penis and vulva, should be well lubricated.

The man should concentrate on stimulating his glans, focusing his attention on the pleasurable sensations he receives from rubbing it against his partner’s genitals. The woman should allow herself to enjoy the clitoral stimulation she’s receiving without thinking ahead to what she hopes or anticipates should happen—to her arousal or to his.

If you, the man, happen to develop an erection during this exercise, don’t be concerned. Continue the stimulation. If you sustain an erection for five minutes or more, you may partly insert yourself—no more than one inch—into your partner’s vagina. If you do partly insert yourself, continue to use your right hand to move your penis from inside the vagina to outside, up, and around the clitoris—in, out, around and around.

POSITION FOR INTERCOURSE:
SOFT-PENIS INTERCOURSE

Training and foreplay exercise. Man rhythmically rubs soft penis against woman’s vaginal opening and clitoris. Penis lengthens, man rhythmically inserts up to one inch and withdraws.

After five minutes or more of partial insertion and clitoral teasing, if you are still sustaining an erection, you may gradually increase penetration while decreasing clitoral stimulation.

Do this exercise at least three times a week for at least fifteen minutes each session, even if you or your partner resists doing it, even if it bores you. Don’t expect an erection. Soft-penis intercourse is a training exercise. Boxers jump rope for training to develop their reflexes and stamina, not because they expect to jump rope in the ring.

Men with erection problems should make a list of the times when their penises rise to the occasion and the times when they don’t. You may identify a pattern.

Alcohol is a very common cause of erection problems. The classic alcohol-related disability is failing to achieve erection because you’re anesthetized with alcohol and then panicking and assuming your penis is permanently disabled. Performance anxiety after that sustains a self-fulfilling prophecy. Up to two drinks in any three-hour period can help rather than hinder sexual experience, but more than that may interfere. Use of the energy of your warrior archetype to set a boundary around how much you drink may be very helpful here.

There are other difficulties you might discover by listing occasions. Some men find they have no difficulty with a familiar partner but difficulty with a new partner. For other men it’s the other way around.

Especially with a familiar partner, you can solve your problem by finding ways to make sex feel new, different, and more exciting. Change the time, change the setting, change the position. One certain new adventure that you and your partner might arrange for yourselves is agreement to train for extended sexual orgasm.

Sex Positions For Fantastic Sex

The images in popular culture can make us all feel inadequate when it comes to sex. Men who watch porn may think they should be able to pound away in their hapless girl’s vagina until she comes in a powerful orgasm.

Women may think they should be able to have five orgasms in a row as soon as a penis appears anywhere near their vagina! The truth, of course, is very different – most men experience premature ejaculation, at least some of the time, when they have sex, especially in certain positions like rear entry, while most women never come during vaginal intercourse.

(Watching porn can give us all a very distorted view of what sex is really like. For example, it’s not normal to finish a bout of sex by withdrawing from your girl’s vagina and ejaculating over her face. Yet this is what many teenage boys are learning about sex as they watch internet porn.)

Just in case you don’t believe me when I say that most men come quickly and most women never come at all during intercourse (and this can be hard to believe; you may even think you’re just a poor lover because these things happen to you), a recent survey proved that only about one woman in five will come during intercourse without any clitoral stimulation.

I suspect even the one in five who does come is actually having an orgasm because her clitoris is being rubbed or stimulated in some way during intercourse without her really appreciating that fact. It’s a bit like the Coital Alignment Technique, which stimulates the clitoris during intercourse and can bring women to orgasm during sex.

Similarly, most men ejaculate within three minutes of penetrating their partner. This was first demonstrated by Alfred Kinsey in 1958, but nothing has change since, as a survey by the German University at Kohn recently proved.

The really important question, of course, is: “Does this matter?” Well…it depends. If you or your partner wants to have vaginal orgasms while you make love then, yes, it matters a lot.

Though many authorities say that this is not necessary for good sex, the simple fact is that having the female partner reach orgasm while a couple make love is a very profound experience for both the man and the woman, and it can add greatly to both partners’ enjoyment of sex. Most men will come immediately their partner begins to have her orgasm, and the sensation of her vagina gripping his penis as she climaxes will give him great pleasure and most likely cause him to ejaculate as well. Yes: that’s what’s called a simultaneous orgasm. Now, how are you going to achieve that?

Well, first of all, accept that she’s going to need a helping hand or finger on her clitoris. That’s how most women who come during sex get to orgasm. (We’ll come back to the idea of the vaginal orgasm, reached purely stimulating the G spot during sex, later.) For the moment, I’m going to offer you some ideas for sex positions that can help a couple bring the woman to orgasm. first off, the man may have a slow ejaculation, or even one that is seriously delayed.

The best position for sex is man on top. It’s a good position for many reasons: ease, comfort, more sensation for the man, easy on the woman who can lie back and enjoy it – we all know why we like it. Men can thrust deeply, but of course while this gives him great pleasure, his penis probably doesn’t go anywhere near her clitoris.

The thing to do is to modify the man on top position so that her clitoris gets some much-needed stimulation. This is the Coital Alignment Technique, about which you can discover more here www.coitalalignmenttechnique.com.

After her enters her, the man shifts his body up so that his penis enters her vagina from a more acute angle. The bottom of the shaft of his penis, where it enters his body, will then be pressed against the general area of her clitoris. He doesn’t then thrust; it’s more like he’s lying on her as the couple rock their bodies against each other.

With a gentle motion that massages his penis in her vagina and stimulates her clitoris, it’s not hard to time the movements so that the couple reach orgasm together.

The best position for a woman to reach orgasm during sex is with her on top, sitting on the man with his penis inside her, facing him.

The reason woman on top works so well is that she can control the depth and angle of penetration, and the speed of thrusting, and the angle at which she lies on her partner, thereby allowing her clitoris to get the stimulation it needs to bring her to orgasm.

Essentially she is in charge during sex in this position, and she can modify it as sex proceeds so that her clitoris is stimulated until she comes – and she can control the speed with which this happens.

Another great position for orgasm during sex is rear entry. In this position, there is plenty of opportunity for either the man or the woman to play with her clitoris until she comes. The only problem here might be that men find this position so stimulating, they tend to come very quickly. Mind you, he can always stop moving while she catches up with him, so simultaneous orgasm should still be possible.

Perhaps the best of all positions for female orgasm is side by side sex. This is a romantic position, one which provides the man with much less stimulation, so he can last longer, and which at the same time allows either him or her to play with her clitoris so that she can get to orgasm.

Because it’s relaxed and romantic, sex in this position can feel much more loving and tender than, say, rear entry. All in all, it’s a sex position which will provide all the romantics out there with a superb experience of feeling your lover and then enjoying a shared orgasm!